So, this pregnancy has been 180% different from my first!
Let me explain…
My first was for the most part, perfect. No food aversions, no serious mood issues, nothing crazy. I could tell my first baby had a schedule after a bit of time. She would be up and about by 10 a.m., and a few other active times during the day. She would move around of course, but not enough to stop me in my tracks or anything like that. I worked at my job up until a month before her due date, and everything went well during delivery.
See? Surely the second one will be just as easy.
One year and seven months later, I was pregnant with my second child.
Now, as far as the secrets go…
All bets are off.
Despite this being another baby girl, I had severe nausea and could only eat certain things, but with my first, I could eat anything! Also, this baby is constantly moving. There’s no such thing as a “schedule.” She is up and about 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. She is a constant hyper mess, ready to enter the world at any moment.
I could work all the way through the first pregnancy, but with this one, I have had to stay on the couch most of the day for the last three months of the pregnancy. Severe contractions begin in the amount of time it takes to take half a shower. Ouch!
New, challenging factors can weigh in on you that you have never dealt with before.
I was at a point where my job was stressing me out. I was having daily headaches, and the doctor had just taken me off that medication as it was not good to take while pregnant. I knew I needed to find an alternative job so that I could make it through. But, in the meantime, I was crying four times a day for reasons I’m still not sure about.
Prenatal Depression is real… And it is terrifying.
I could tell I was losing who I was, and quick. I looked to the internet for help, and it appeared that I was suffering from prenatal depression. Who knew that was even a thing? I told my doctor about it, and I was promptly prescribed medication. This medicine, like the kind I took for headaches, was also risky to take with the baby.
So, what’s a girl to do?
I waited to see if things changed after switching jobs- lucky for me, they did. I never had to take the medication, but I do know that if I would not have changed my situation, it would have been an absolute necessity.
You’ll feel like you made a mistake.
I did. I wondered why I ever decided to have children so close in age, when my first is still a “baby” herself. She has also had to deal with the fact that my every other phrase is “be careful with belly,” as she tries to climb all over me.
The Final Secret: None of these things matter.
Sure, your pregnancy can be completely different from the last. You may have things occur that you didn’t expect to happen. You might feel like you made the wrong move for your family. You may go through serious changes that you never accounted for.
But, you know what? It’s all temporary feelings.
You begin to realize that you’re going to be okay, with medication or without, with the same job or a different one, and if you’re limited on how long you can stand. Or, something else could happen while you’re pregnant. Every mom is unique and we all find ourselves in different situations.
You will wake up one day and realize this is the decision that you made for your family and that your child will be a fabulous big sister or brother. You’ll have the comfort of knowing that they both will have each other, and that bond will be so special. You will be able to love both of your children. And you’ll know that when they are sitting together, giggling with one another, running around outside together, or falling asleep with one another that you made the right decision. Creating life is a miracle, no matter when it happens. Embrace it! All of it is worth it.
How did your second pregnancy differ from your first? Let me know in the comments.
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