Depending on who you ask, it can be a blessing or a curse to live far from family when you have a baby. I spent an entire post outlining the pros and cons of having a baby when you live far from family. However, it may be the situation you find yourself in. Here are tips for labor, delivery and postpartum when you live far from
You probably don’t need your family there while you are in
Your due date is really just a guess on when your baby will be born. In reality, it will likely fall somewhere in a 4 to
Also, while you are in the hospital, you have your husband to help and an entire team of nurses and doctors taking care of your every need. We didn’t even change a diaper until we got home because the nurses did it every time. Depending on if you have a natural birth or C-section and what complications occur, you will be kept in the hospital anywhere from 24 hours to 4 + days after giving birth. There really isn’t much for your family to do other than be in a cramped room. To solve this, ask your doctor how fast past your due date they will let you go prior to induction. Have the first family visit take place a week after that date. This will ensure that
Take advantage of family visits.
When you live far from family, they are likely planning to visit for a week or more at a time to make the trip worth it. Take advantage of this to have round-the-clock help. I wanted my mom to be the first to
Practice going out while you have help.
While you have family visiting, go out to eat, go to church, go to the mall, etc. Use the extra set of hands to help while you are learning how to juggle a newborn and everything that goes with a baby. Make sure to get all my tips for going out with a newborn.
Plan for time without family prior to going back to work.
If you will be returning to work after having a baby, you will want a week or two right before you go back where you don’t have family visiting. This gives you, your husband and your baby time to figure out a routine that will work. Check out my other tips for returning to work after maternity leave to make your transition as smooth as possible.
Schedule family visits with a buffer in between.
When our son was born, the day my mom left, we dropped her at the airport in the morning and picked my mother-in-law up a few hours later. In hindsight, it really would have helped to have at least a 24-hour buffer to adjust. I was still emotional from my mom leaving, and not mentally ready for another visitor that fast. I also wanted time to just hold my son and let him sleep on me without having to share him with family.
Plan the next visit before the current one ends.
With the emotions after birth, it can be difficult saying goodbye to family. I found it was easier to know when we would see each other again before the current trip ended. Sometimes this was our family visiting again, other times, we visited them, or sometimes we met somewhere in the middle for an extended weekend.
Estimate how much time your guests will want you to entertain them versus entertaining themselves or simply being happy to take care of the new baby.
My mom was happy to go out and do
Get involved with a church.
This is a great way to meet like-minded people. If you find a church full of other young parents, they can be
If you are pregnant and don’t live near family, there are many pros and cons. However, it’s important to make the best of it and have a plan in place prior to giving birth. Consider who will be coming to visit, how long they want to stay, and what order you want them to come in.
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